Defining sex in terms of activity and function. A conjecture on a female's perception of intercourse and discovering a positive one.
The
word “sex” is more of an expression referring to a broad spectrum of sexual
activities. We commonly use the term in reference to penis-vagina intercourse.
According to Hock, “coitus” is the specific term which defines actual
penetration of the penis into the vagina which by definition is a heterosexual expression.
In this discussion, we will assume “sex” and “coitus” are synonyms. Hock
explains that psychological aspects of human sexuality are what primarily differentiate
humans from nonhuman animals in sexual functioning and behavior (Hock, 2012,
pg. 136). Humans perform sex not only in means of reproduction but for pleasure
as well. We have a psychological desire to please and be pleased. Although,
according to statistics, woman are not experiencing the pleasure sex can
provide. In 1995, woman rated their first sexual experiences as a 2.95 on a 1-7
scale in one study (Crawford, 2012, pg. 205). Women are considered to obtain
more of a romantic ideology in sexual scripts which may explain such a low score
concluded from the research. Women have a tendency to relate the act of losing
virginity to what they see on TV or read in books which portray this event as
passionate and tender. For many women, this was not the reality. Many women
experience some pain or a sense of insecurity. When women carry such a high
expectation going in to their first intercourse experience they are more likely
to describe the event with a negative connotation when expectations are not
met.
In
my opinion, women need to have a “realistic” ideology opposed to a romantic
one. It is important to understand that your first experience will most likely
not meet your expectations and the experience may be awkward or painful. But
women should not let this occurrence define their beliefs of sexual pleasure.
Sex is one of the most natural behaviors of humans and should be enjoyable.
Although losing your virginity was not the most pleasurable does not mean that
the next experience will be the same. It is important to experiment with your sexual
partner to find what puts you in a state of euphoria and gives you an orgasm.
It is also vital that women take note to the fact that although we are female,
our female parts are all pleasured differently from one another. Women should
feel comfortable in their own skin to explore their sexual desires. With all
this in mind, it is also imperative that women recognize all that comes along
with being sexually active. If a female decides to become sexually active, she
must concede her susceptibility to STD and unwanted pregnancy, two factors of
which can be prevented through the use of condoms and contraceptives.
Refrences
Crawford, M. (2010). Transformations:
Women, Gender & Psychology (2nd ed.).
New York, NY: McGraw-Hill.
Hock, R. (2010). Human Sexuality (2nd
ed.). Saddle River, NJ: Pearson.
Taylor, K. (2009). Fictional characters are
unhealthy love interests. Female First. Retrieved
from: <http://www.femalefirst.co.uk/relationships/Fictional+characters+are+unhealthy+love+interests-181-page2.html>.
